The Headache, The Stress, Let’s Solve It!
Ahh, probably one of the hardest tasks of planning a wedding is deciding who gets to come, because in the end everyone has a budget and every venue has a maximum capacity. So who makes the cut? It’s a tough decision but let us help with some tips so you can figure out exactly who to send your wedding invites to!
The Starting Point
To start MAKE A LIST of everyone you and your partner are generally thinking about inviting. Start with family members, then extended family, then your closest friends and lastly, co-workers or acquaintances. Then narrow it down to a high-level guest list, even if it’s not finalized, this way you know an approximate guest total before you search for a venue. The last thing anyone wants is to be boxed in somewhere that’s clearly too small!
Let’s Break It Down
So, not that you have a list start asking yourself four important questions about each person with your fiancé:
Do you even know who they are?
If neither of you even know of this person and they’re just some friend of a family member or something distance, don’t bother. Plus, it’s best to share this special day with the people you both personally know. It truly makes the day that much more special. You don’t want to spend time at your own wedding introducing yourself to too many people. You already have plus ones to potentially deal with!
2. Knowing of them versus knowing them
Sounds silly, but knowing of them is still different than knowing them. If they’re a family member, maybe you’re stuck inviting them. But if don’t know some basic things about their life, it’s probably not worth an invite.
3. Will the wedding go more smoothly with them?
If there’s old drama between guests or family quarrels that just can’t be dropped, you might want to consider not inviting them. Maybe it’s the whole group of troublemakers to keep it fair, or just the one person who is known to stir the pot. If your day is truly important to them, then try sitting them down and being honest about your doubts in inviting them. This way you can evaluate the situation before making a final decision.
4. Would you change your wedding date in order for them to attend?
This is a tough one, but we promise it works especially if you’re trying to fit you guest count into a smaller venue or you are really struggling with creating your guest list. But, think about it. Hypothetically, if this person couldn’t attend would you change your entire planned wedding date just for them? For example, you might change the date for you mom or maid of honor, but would you for your cousin or co-worker? Probably not. Again, it’s a tough one, but an effective one.
Making your final guest list is never easy and trust us, we know because we’ve been there! In the end, you can’t invite everyone unless you have an endless budget and largest venue out there. Just remember that this is your special day and you deserve to spend it with nothing less than the best possible family and friends.
Venue: Legacy Hill Farm